Letter to the advice column of the
Syracuse Herald American,
March 5, 1995:
Dear Pat: My therapist has encouraged me to write you and share a
ritual I conceived of to celebrate my decision to lead a single
life. Next month I will be 30. Instead of being depressed about
hitting "the big 3-0," and being unmarried, which is something I
have decided against, I'm having a different kind of wedding party. In
front of close friends, I plan to marry myself. I will ask for their
blessings, anticipating some will read poetry, others may play a song
on the guitar, or read something they have written especially for
me. Then I will place a beautiful jade band on my "ring finger,"
symbolizing my marriage to myself.
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