In her book
Body Politics,
Nancy Henley notes that when a man
walks a woman home, gives up his seat, or moves furniture for a woman,
he is actually creating a "protection racket" to prevent women from
realizing they're fully capable of coping with their environment
without male intervention. Likewise, shaking a woman's hand is "a
masculine ritual of recognition and affirmation [that] serves to
perpetuate male clubbiness and exclude women from the club."
Nevertheless, "guilty men" who are aware of the disadvantageous
position they put women in are not much better than "macho pigs,"
the other of the two categories into which Henley says all men can be
divided. Guilty men, "who know and hate that women have been
oppressed for centuries," are "no fun at all, because guilt causes
low self-esteem and general wimpiness. Guilt makes men clutch their
heads and mutter, then fall asleep with their clothes on."
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